Yes, what you want is normal. But do not let anyone else define what is normal for you.
Yes, there are other people who share your kink. But please don’t assume that the first person you find who does is The One for you.
Yes, you can do that. Yes, others will have issues with it. No, they don’t matter.
Yes, you will run into assholes. But please don’t let that slow your journey.
Yes, you should go to munches and parties if at all possible. Even if you’re single. Even if you’re shy. It’s going to be awkward at first but we were all there at one time or another.
Yes, you should try that. But don’t let someone talk you into doing something you’re not ready for or is a hard limit for you. Walk away. Even if – maybe especially if – you identify as a submissive. But tops have limits too.
Yes, you are allowed to say no. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Yes, you should talk to your partner about that. Future partners too.
Yes, you should explore your fantasies. But recognize that not all fantasies translate easily to real life.
Yes, you should try new things. But not everything is going to be for you.
Yes, you should look for labels that describe you. But don’t let them define you. Treat them as a jumping off point to a much larger discussion.
Assume nothing. About anyone. Ever. Anywhere.
Slow down.
Ask.
This may just be the ride of your life. Treat it, and yourself, with respect.
Treat others with respect until they prove themselves unworthy.
Be patient with yourself.
Breathe.
Watch.
Learn.
Enjoy.
Live.
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