Anonymous asked:
Do you think submissives who show pics of themselves are pathetic or like begging for attention
instructor144 answered:
Not necessarily. I can think of a number of reasons a submissive might do that. I’m making the large assumption that you’re referring to submissives putting pictures of themselves on their blogs, and I’ll answer the question on that assumption. If you’re referring to submissives who send a PM out of the blue with a nude of themselves, then yeah, that’s pretty classless and crude and reflects a glaring lack of self-respect. It’s no different than a guy who sends an unsolicited picture of his (usually unremarkable) dick.
So, some reasons that a submissive might put pictures of herself on her blog …
She’s an “attention whore.” She revels in all the “omigod u are sooooo HOT” comments she gets. I could play armchair psychologist and speculate about what inner deficiency she is feeding with this, but whatever. It’s harmless.
She’s proud of her body. I know a couple of submissives who have made amazing changes in their lives, including transforming their bodies. They post pictures because, as one submissive once posted, “I worked my fucking ass off for this body, goddam right I’m proud of it!”
She’s learning to love her body. A lot of women have body issues, some of them serious issues. I could say “I’ve never met a submissive who didn’t have body image issues,” but it’s easier and more accurate to say “I’ve never met a woman who didn’t have body image issues.” I frankly admire anyone who has such issues but pushes past them to post images of herself. “Here I am. I am not perfect. I may not be your cuppa tea. But I’m learning to become OK with myself, so here I am.” I admire that degree of bravery.
She’s an exhibitionist. Props to a Follower for thinking of this one.
She’s trolling for a Dom or (more likely) play partners. Think of it as “advertising the goods.” Any prospect who approaches her is going to know what she looks like,so it automatically culls any for whom her body type isn’t what floats their boat.
She’s turned on by doing it. Some women find the thought of anonymous Followers ogling and fantasizing and wanking to images of their body intensely arousing.
She wants to show off her marks. Many submissives are very proud of the marks that their Dominant inscribes on their flesh, and rightly so. They post pictures of their bodies to showcase their marks and proclaim their pride. I find this admirable and endearing, as long as their Dominant has given them permission to do so.
It’s her blog. In other words, she posts nudes because it’s her blog, and she feels like it. No reason beyond that is needed.
Anyway, these are just the reasons that occur to me off the top of my head. I’ll invite my Followers to chime in with their thoughts, especially my sub Followers who do this.